TheBroCode Rule #5: If a Bro helps you move, you shall reciprocate with beer and pizza during or after the move.

This week we break down alter egos, grounding techniques, and bali

What is an Alter Ego?

A separate personality or identity created by an individual to represent a different side of themselves. A mechanism used to tap into hidden potential, overcome fears, hurdles, and achieve goals that otherwise seemed impossible based on current identity.

Kobe and the ‘Black Mamba’, Eminem and “Slim Shady’, Snoop Dogg and “Snoop Lion’, Bruce ’billionaire’ Wayne and “Batman”…the one thing these guys all have in common….alter egos.

The rise of alter egos among successful men is no fluke. Sports psychology speaks directly to it and now it’s being used by everyone including gamers, entrepreneurs, NBA stars, rappers, etc. as a way to unlock hidden potential, overcome obstacles & fears, explore a different side of oneself, build confidence, overcome anxiety, depression, among many other reasons.

We’ve all witnessed it, especially in guys like Kobe. The ‘Black Mamba” is the fiercest competitor you will ever meet on the court with a stare down that burns through your soul, but off the court, we got Kobe the ‘girl dad’, the Oscar winner, the mentor.

Alter egos are used to break free from depression, anxiety, and more commonly from failure. The psychological distress from failure takes a huge toll on men whether it be from losing a championship, a business failure, stalled progress, missed goals,etc. We tend to over-identify failures as judgements on our character and identity as individuals. To remove all that, it’s why the elite use alter egos to attach the public personas. They’ve been directed too for the sake of their own mental well being to do it that way.

We should take note and do the same.

They’ve all spent time with a special man, named Todd Herman. This is the man that helps the elite and billionaires alike, unlock their alter egos and become what they need to become in different chapters of their life.

Are you ready to unlock your hidden potential and discover your Alter Ego?

Here are some resources below to get you started…

Famous Alter Egos

Fighters and Alter Egos

Alter Ego Mindset

Your Alter Ego Will Accomplish More Than You

Interview With Todd Herman, The Man Himself. 👇🏽

Buy the Book on Amazon Below 👇🏽

Earthing aka Grounding connects you to the Earth’s natural healing energy. No, it’s not some hocus pocus bullshit, it’s actually backed by science.

When you sync your body to the natural rhythms of the earth, there are healing properties similar to antioxidants that reduce inflammation, pain, and stress; improve blood flow, sleep, and vitality.

It doesn’t get any simpler than this when it comes to doing something that benefits both your physical and mental health.

You can do any of the following:

• Submerge yourself in water

• Walk on a patch of grass barefoot

• Walk in the sand or dirt barefoot

• lay down in the grass

• hug a tree

It might sound crazy, but this shit actually works, especially if you focus your mind and practice meditation at the same time.

There’s a few different ways to describe this whole thing but let me keep it real in two ways.

1. It’s ancient, it goes back to the days before modern civilization. It’s an transcendental journey through the Chakra system.

2. The science: The earth is a limitless supply of energy in the form of mobile electrons that has a negative electrical charge naturally. When we make physical contact with the earth (think grass, sand) we receive a charge of energy in the free electrons that synchronizes your body with earth’s frequencies.

Grounding has shown to significantly improve mood for anxiety and depression, decrease in chronic fatigue, and prevention of cardiovascular disease, all my spending a small amount of time, in this case, just standing barefoot in grass and releasing your toxins and energy through your feed into their ground. There is an electrical rebalancing that occurs in our body when you do this as you absorb energy from the earth.

Don’t believe me? Go try it out and let me know how it goes bro. When your energy feels off, try reconnecting with the earth outside while focusing on energy release + decent breathing techniques and I’m sure it’ll work wonders. (p.s. you can also use grounding mats, and other stuff they sell online, but the most natural, easiest, and free way to do this, is just reconnect the soles of your feet with mother earth)

Learn more:

• Grounding: Exploring Earthing

• Earthing Canada

Personal Stories Series: The 1st Time I Lost My Mind Was In Bali (part 1)

For The 1st Time In My Life I Didn’t Know Who I Was…I Was Having a Crisis….

I remember it vividly. It was March 9th 2019…I was drenched in humid rain sitting on a patio eating breakfast at a Villa in Ubud, Bali with my ex-wife. As the tropical rain had just cleared, we were having breakfast (below) as I wiped myself down with a drenched towel.

I had a meeting with my CEO in 30 minutes. The last few days, I’ve been feeling sluggish, It was hard to get out of bed, it was hard to happy about anything….I didn’t really know what was wrong with me, but I knew something was up. I quickly finished breakfast, left my ex-wife on the patio, and went back to my room to get ready for the meeting. I was trying to shake off this bad feeling and trying to get ready for the call to go over a few things for the board meeting.

I setup my laptop on a small white desk across our queen size bed and I pull the rustic chair out and prop myself down. I look at my face in the mirror and I barely recognize the man in the mirror but it’s showtime. I turn on my webcam, I open the calendar invite, and he’s already in the meeting, waiting for me. I join, he admits me in, and the next 20 minutes were the worst I’ve experienced in a while. I was being “let go” for no specific reason other than they were going in a different direction.

My heart sank. I had left my career in Toronto, I had moved across the world to Southeast Asia, and this European firm was firing me in a matter of months. I was bit shocked by the whole thing, I remember thanking him, hanging up the phone, standing up and falling back on the bed and staring at the ceiling for what felt like an eternity. I was already feeling like shit, my mind was spaced out (I didn’t know it was depression at the time), and now I had just lost my major contract that I had moved across the world for.

My ex-wife walks into the room, she says “How did the call go?”…I don’t know what to say. Do I tell her we’re fucked or do I try to figure it out first? I sit up on the bed and tell her “It didn’t go so well. I got let go. We’re in trouble. We’re gonna need to figure something out ASAP”. I have an emotionless blank stare on my face as I say it. She looks at me understandingly and says “Don’t worry, we’ll figure it out”.

I look at myself in the mirror and I feel disgusted with myself. I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore. I can’t stay here in this room, I think to myself. I tell my ex-wife I gotta go clear my head, and I walk out the room into the lobby. I ask the Balinese man at the front desk to call me a taxi. I jump in the taxi and ask the driver “where’s one of the best temples that’s close by?” In this moment, somethin’ is telling me I should go pray and connect with god spiritually, since I have no fucking clue what else to do. I’m feeling lost. I feel like I’ve lost my identity as the ‘finance guy’. I had no idea who I was without my career defining who I was. This was the first time I’ve ever felt like this, and I didn’t know how to cope.

The driver turns and says to me, “ don’t worry, I’ll take you to the best temple in Ubud, and off we go….

About 30 minutes later, we arrive at the Tirta Empul Temple. I pay the taxi, and enter the large stone temple gates. I pay the fee of IDR 50,000 to enter. Luckily, I’m dressed in beige khakis, I have a black undershirt on, and a I’m wearing a white collared golf tee. (I didn’t know there was a dress code before I had decided to come here). Sarongs are mandatory, so I rent one in the open courtyard and I start walking around the temple grounds.

It’s massive, it’s beautiful, It’s historic.

I have no idea what I’m doing here. I’m not that spiritual or religious. I just didn’t know what else to do. I feel so lost. Maybe spirituality and faith has some kind of answer for me.

My relationship was on the brink, I felt like my marriage was falling apart based on the last few months. I had just lost my job. I was already in a bad place mentally. I had also sold off everything I had owned back in Toronto to make the move. I was as lost as I’d ever been with no vision, no solution, and no answers.

All I know is something was telling me to connect with my spirituality and so I was here…..I didn’t have the answers, but I found a spark in myself that I needed to find to get through the darkest hours….

Part 2: To Be Continued, next week…